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		<title>Dear Graduates: of life, men, and the problem with experience</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 18 Jun 2013 04:02:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[This past Sunday was a busy day. Not only was it Father&#8217;s Day, but it was also the day of my youngest daughter&#8217;s high school graduation. As I thought about my hopes and dreams for her, I couldn&#8217;t help but reflect upon the hopes and dreams I had for myself at that age, and the hopes [&#8230;]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mattforrest.wordpress.com&#038;blog=39004947&#038;post=2677&#038;subd=mattforrest&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="www.FreeDigitalPhotos.net" target="_blank"><img class="alignleft" title="Image courtesy of t0zz / FreeDigitalPhotos.net" alt="ID-10046308 (graduate cap)" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/id-10046308-graduate-cap.jpg?w=200&#038;h=300" width="200" height="300" /></a>This past Sunday was a busy day. Not only was it Father&#8217;s Day, but it was also the day of my youngest daughter&#8217;s high school graduation.</p>
<p>As I thought about my hopes and dreams for her, I couldn&#8217;t help but reflect upon the hopes and dreams I had for myself at that age, and the hopes and dreams my father probably had for his only son. When you&#8217;re 18 and graduating, the questions abound. Should I go to college? Should I work? If I go to college, what should I study? If I go to work, what will I do? Should I do what my parents want, or what I want?</p>
<p>In considering all these thoughts, worries, and concerns, something occurred to me:</p>
<p><strong><em>Maturity changes everything.</em></strong></p>
<p>Looking back over my post-high school years, I realize now what I did right and where I went wrong. I can also see multiple instances where there was no right or wrong. Life experience may be great, but it&#8217;s also a problem.</p>
<p>They say experience is the greatest teacher; unfortunately, it&#8217;s all on-the-job training.  You don&#8217;t get a probationary period. You don&#8217;t get a chance to learn the ropes, then go out and live your life.  We&#8217;re all in the position of tackling the world with only as much information and experience as we have at that moment &#8211; and it is only <em>after</em> we fail or succeed that we get our report card.  No matter how much we think we know &#8211; we never know what we need to know until after the fact.</p>
<p>Life is a perpetual game of trial-and-error, and I doubt most graduates realize how many &#8216;errors&#8217; they will end up accumulating over the long haul. This very realization is, itself, one of the blessings of maturity.  Once we accept the fact that we don&#8217;t know everything, that we will likely fail as often (if not more) than we succeed, and that we need the knowledge, experience, and support of others to get us through&#8230;life becomes easier. And harder.</p>
<p>You see, maturity is both a blessing and a curse. On one hand, you see things more clearly and understand better how life and the world operate, which allows you to move forward with wisdom and confidence. On the other hand, you see all your past mistakes with laser-pinpoint accuracy - and although it&#8217;s helpful, it&#8217;s sometimes painful to watch. <strong></strong></p>
<p><strong><img class="alignright  wp-image-2693" title="photo courtesy of Katherine Esenwine" alt="Chilli cookoff, apple picking, hair cut October 2010 020" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/chilli-cookoff-apple-picking-hair-cut-october-2010-020.jpg?w=270&#038;h=203" width="270" height="203" />The man I&#8217;ll never be</strong></p>
<p>I should probably know more about men than I do, considering I call myself one. I don&#8217;t know if they have the same doubts, hopes, fears, and insecurities I have&#8230;but I&#8217;m sure I&#8217;m not the only one who believes:</p>
<p><em>I&#8217;ll never be the man my kids think I am, I&#8217;ll never be the man my wife deserves,<br />
and I&#8217;ll never be the man my father is.</em></p>
<p>I think it is due to personal inadequacies I have created, based upon the standards I have set for myself&#8230;and again, I wonder if other men share this concern. I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;m a bad person, but could I do better? Could I spend more time with the kids, teach them more, listen to them more? Could I do more for my wife, help her more, support her more? Could I be a harder worker, better-skilled, more involved with the community?</p>
<p>Certainly.</p>
<p>And it&#8217;s not like I don&#8217;t try to improve myself in these areas. I just keep falling short of those pesky standards I was talking about. Maybe it&#8217;s the perfectionist in me, but I doubt I&#8217;ll ever reach them. I&#8217;m willing to accept that. But it won&#8217;t keep me from trying. <strong></strong></p>
<p><strong>The big surprise awaiting graduates</strong></p>
<p>Taking into account the experience, wisdom, and surprises that come with the blessing/curse of maturity, my recognition of past failings, and my desire to constantly improve myself, I felt it&#8217;s important that graduates know one important thing. Whether they go to college or go to work, stay at home or move away, get married or stay single, there is one truth that is universal. It surprised me years ago, and it still surprises unsuspecting young people.</p>
<p>Ready, graduates? Here it is: <em></em></p>
<p><em>Life is harder than you realize.</em></p>
<p>Are you surprised? No? Well, you should be. If you don&#8217;t think it&#8217;s hard, just wait. And if you think it&#8217;s hard already, it&#8217;s actually harder. I&#8217;m not trying to scare you or anything &#8211; just helping you to be prepared, based on years of life experience and <em>&gt;ahem&lt;</em> maturity.</p>
<p>Life is fun, life is sad, life is exciting, life is boring, life is anything you make it out to be and will take you anywhere you want to go &#8211; but it&#8217;s up to you to do the driving. Sometimes, life is, indeed, easy. It will often be hard, too. That should never keep you from enjoying it and getting the most out of it.   Hard work can be enjoyable and rewarding, and so is life. Just remember that</p>
<p><em>Life is harder than you realize.</em></p>
<p>If you want to do something you think is difficult, do it anyway. Can&#8217;t do it? Figure out a way. Never accept impossibility as an option. The best things in life might be free, but the most rewarding ones usually don&#8217;t come without a great deal of work, sweat, and perseverance.</p>
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<p>And by the way, if your personal situation is nice and stress-free, what about your neighbor&#8217;s? Are they struggling with some sort of problems? There&#8217;s probably something you could do to lighten their load. No, I don&#8217;t mean just offering them money or food. That&#8217;s easy. I mean taking some time to get to know them and actually lending a real helping hand. Being a true neighbor. True, that might be hard to do, but then again&#8230; <em></em></p>
<p><em>Life is harder than you realize.</em></p>
<p>If life is not hard, then you&#8217;re either extremely lucky, or you&#8217;re doing it wrong.</p>
<p>So be careful out there.</p>
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		<title>Poetry Friday: &#8220;More Than We Are&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 14 Jun 2013 04:01:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Where does the time go? One minute your kids are starting kindergarten and the next thing you know, they&#8217;re heading off to prom and graduation and the rest of their life. Whew, that was quick. My youngest daughter, Katherine, is graduating high school this weekend, so there was no question for me as to what poem [&#8230;]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mattforrest.wordpress.com&#038;blog=39004947&#038;post=2661&#038;subd=mattforrest&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p><em>Whew, that was quick.</em></p>
<p>My youngest daughter, Katherine, is graduating high school this weekend, so there was no question for me as to what poem I should share today.  Katherine is a very talented young woman, whose photography has graced more than a few blog posts here. She was selected as a New Hampshire Scholar for her above-average course load while in high school, and I&#8217;m very proud of her.</p>
<p>I wrote this a little over a year ago &#8211; and although it&#8217;s not really &#8216;about&#8217; her, the message was created with her, her older sisters, and all young people in mind.</p>
<p>(Good grief, I just used the phrase &#8220;young people.&#8221; That makes me think I might not be one of them anymore.)</p>
<p>Anyhoo&#8230;for all of today&#8217;s Poetry Friday festivities, visit Margaret at <a href="http://reflectionsontheteche.wordpress.com/2013/06/13/writing-marathon/" target="_blank">Reflections on the Teche</a>!</p>
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<p><b>&#8220;More Than We Are <i>(for Katherine)&#8221;</i></b><i></i></p>
<p>An astronaut’s an astronaut,<br />
But may be someone’s dad<br />
Who takes his daughter fishing<br />
When she feels a little sad.<br />
A banker is a banker<br />
But might be a mom, as well,<br />
Who shows her son the alphabet<br />
And helps him learn to spell.</p>
<p>A teacher is a teacher<br />
But could be a singer, too;<br />
The janitor at school may wish<br />
He ran the local zoo.<br />
His son might be a doctor<br />
Who is saving someone’s life;<br />
The lady at the store today<br />
Might be the doctor’s wife.</p>
<p><img class="alignright" alt="Half of Katie" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/half-of-katie.jpg?w=132&#038;h=300" width="132" height="300" />Each homeless person on the street,<br />
Each writer of a song,<br />
Each boy or girl you chance to meet<br />
Has somewhere they belong.<br />
There’s always more than what we see,<br />
And as we learn and grow,<br />
We’re all more than we seem to be –</p>
<p>And <i>you’re</i> more than you know.</p>
<p><span style="color:#ffffff;">.</span></p>
<p><em>- © 2012, Matt Forrest Esenwine</em></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[It was an enticing offer. It seemed so innocent, yet perfectly-timed. Coming from a reputable company, it offered exactly what I thought my wife was looking for. It was, in fact, the last thing she&#8217;d ever want. The letter that started it all&#8230; One beautiful, sunny afternoon, I walked to the end of the driveway [&#8230;]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mattforrest.wordpress.com&#038;blog=39004947&#038;post=2633&#038;subd=mattforrest&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It was an enticing offer. It seemed so innocent, yet perfectly-timed. Coming from a reputable company, it offered exactly what I thought my wife was looking for.</p>
<p><strong><img class="alignright" alt="MH900387606 (mailbox)" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/mh900387606-mailbox.jpg?w=240&#038;h=240" width="240" height="240" /></strong>It was, in fact, the last thing she&#8217;d ever want.</p>
<p><strong>The letter that started it all&#8230;</strong></p>
<p>One beautiful, sunny afternoon, I walked to the end of the driveway to check the mail and see what goodies the Postal Service had left for us that day.  I opened the mailbox and pulled forthwith a bounty of bills, automobile sales flyers, and oversized, multi-colored envelopes from Publisher&#8217;s Clearing House emulating Joseph&#8217;s Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat, and exhorting me to cut, paste, sign, and stamp my way to financial bliss.</p>
<p>Tossing the electric and phone bills aside along with my opportunity to be one of the 10,000 guaranteed potential winners of a chance to qualify to win another opportunity to receive more envelopes, my eyes settled on a blue-and-white envelope from my eye doctor&#8217;s office. I opened it and read the letter inside.</p>
<p>Although the message was not utterly compelling&#8230;it was intriguing.</p>
<p>It was also, apparently, not completely read. That was my first mistake.</p>
<p><strong>What could be wrong with an eye doctor?</strong></p>
<p>First, a little history. My wife and I were married a few years ago and were still in the process of combining marital things like utility and bank accounts, bathroom supplies, and Christmas card lists. One of the things my wife wanted to do, now that she was living almost an hour from where she had been previously, was find some new doctors closer to our home: a general practitioner, a dentist, and an ophthalmologist.</p>
<p><img class=" wp-image-2648 alignleft" alt="MH900422196 (eye dr)" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/mh900422196-eye-dr.jpg?w=192&#038;h=192" width="192" height="192" />That&#8217;s why this letter from my eye doctor&#8217;s practice caught my interest. They had just hired a new doctor! Now, I didn&#8217;t know if my own eye doctor, a wonderful fellow, was accepting new patients &#8211; but this new doctor was. Both my wife and I had been meaning to call my doctor&#8217;s office, yet for whatever reason we just hadn&#8217;t gotten around to it. This letter served as a perfect opportunity to call and find out.</p>
<p>Plus &#8211; and here&#8217;s the kicker &#8211; every new patient of this new doctor would receive as a gift a free bottle of high-end, scientifically-formulated, super-duper skin cream&#8230;and what woman doesn&#8217;t like expensive skin cream?? My lovely wife certainly does; she&#8217;s the first to admit she&#8217;s as as girl-girl as they come. If it&#8217;s pink, sparkly, soft, or cuddly, she&#8217;s all over it.</p>
<p>So here it was:  an appointment with a new eye doctor at a well-respected practice, and a bottle of fancy lotion-y stuff I just knew she&#8217;d love. I set the envelope and letter, face up, on her desk, so she would see it as soon as she got home.</p>
<p>That was my second mistake.</p>
<p><strong>Ohhh&#8230;<em>that</em> kind of eye doctor</strong></p>
<p>My beautiful bride hadn&#8217;t been home for more than 10 minutes when I heard her shout out, &#8220;What is THIS?!?&#8221;  The fact that she was in the living room and I was outside in back of the house should give you an idea as to the sheer volume of that shout.</p>
<p>Unaware of my transgression and oblivious to the reason for her outcry, I came in and asked &#8211; in an admittedly muted tone &#8211; &#8220;errr&#8230;what&#8217;s the matter, Honey?&#8221;</p>
<p>My jaw dropped when the love of my life held up the papers and shook them in front of my face.</p>
<p><em>&#8220;You think I need a PLASTIC SURGEON???&#8221;</em></p>
<p><strong>Reading = good.  Skimming = very, very not good</strong></p>
<p>I was dumbfounded. If she had no idea what I was thinking, I certainly had no idea, either.  I asked, foolishly, &#8220;What do you mean?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;I mean, you think I need a PLASTIC SURGEON???&#8221; My wonderful wife repeated her question word-for-word. I&#8217;m not sure if it was for emphasis or because she was so stunned she couldn&#8217;t think of anything else to say. It was probably for both.</p>
<p>Still not knowing what to say, I took the papers she had been holding &#8211; well, actually, she kind of threw them at me &#8211; and read more closely. The new doctor was, indeed, a plastic surgeon. He had been hired to do facial treatments, eye lifts, Botox, and that sort of thing.  I had mistakenly figured eye doctor + new patients = good idea.</p>
<p>This was so <em>not</em> a good idea.</p>
<p>&#8220;You think I need BOTOX?!?&#8221; my gorgeous life partner asked me -  rhetorically, I assumed.  Now, she had mentioned once or twice in passing that she might be willing to try it in the future if she ever got old and wrinkly enough, but I wasn&#8217;t about to open up that can of worms.  I just immediately said no, of course not, and tried to explain my confusion.</p>
<p>After a few minutes, she understood that I was not a shallow, demeaning, chauvinist trying to encourage her to change her body or looks to suit my preference. I was simply an idiot.</p>
<p>We both accepted that fact, and have, I&#8217;m happy to say, moved on.</p>
<p><strong><a href="http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/" target="_blank"><img class=" wp-image-2651 alignright" title="Image courtesy of Ambro / FreeDigitalPhotos.net" alt="ID-10019632 (Botox)" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/id-10019632-botox.jpg?w=240&#038;h=159" width="240" height="159" /></a>Let this be a lesson!</strong></p>
<p>The takeaway from this little episode, of course, is that one needs to pay attention to the messages that bombard us every day.  Conversely, those of us in the advertising industry should take notice and make sure our messages are clear, as well. I&#8217;ve written previous posts about things like the importance of <a href="http://mattforrest.wordpress.com/2013/02/26/who-do-you-think-youre-talking-to/" target="_blank">knowing your audience </a>and <a href="http://mattforrest.wordpress.com/2013/02/19/in-commercials-or-poems-be-specific/" target="_blank">having clear, specific messages</a>.</p>
<p>This is why.</p>
<p>If you&#8217;re an advertiser, you have to assume some of your potential customers will be idiots like me and completely miss your message. Can you make your message 100% idiot-proof? Not always. But you can certainly increase its effectiveness by editing, reviewing, and testing.</p>
<p>If you&#8217;re a writer, ask others to read your work and see if they get your message.</p>
<p>And if you&#8217;re a consumer&#8230;.read the fine print.</p>
<p>No bottle of free body cream is worth the aggravation.</p>
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		<title>Poetry Friday: &#8220;Growing Greens&#8221;</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[A couple of weeks ago, I pulled out one of my very first children&#8217;s poems (from 2000!) to share for Poetry Friday.  Today I&#8217;m dusting off another older poem, although not quite that old &#8211; I wrote this a mere three years ago.  I just thought it was appropriate for this time of year. It came about [&#8230;]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mattforrest.wordpress.com&#038;blog=39004947&#038;post=2621&#038;subd=mattforrest&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A couple of weeks ago, I pulled out one of <a href="http://mattforrest.wordpress.com/2013/05/24/poetry-friday-my-book-report/" target="_blank">my very first children&#8217;s poems </a>(from 2000!) to share for Poetry Friday.  Today I&#8217;m dusting off another older poem, although not quite that old &#8211; I wrote this a mere three years ago.  I just thought it was appropriate for this time of year.</p>
<p>It came about when I was mowing the lawn one day and started thinking about what I was doing from a child&#8217;s perspective (which is how most great children&#8217;s poems are written, of course!)  I asked myself questions that a child might ask his or her dad:  <em>What are you doing?  Why are you cutting the grass?  Why don&#8217;t you grow flowers like mom?</em></p>
<p>And this is what happened when the child inside me tried to answer those questions!</p>
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<p><b>Growing Greens</b></p>
<p>Mommy grows flowers<br />
She thins them and feeds them.<br />
She prunes them and pots them<br />
and waters and weeds them.</p>
<p>Daddy grows grass.</p>
<p>Mommy grows ivy<br />
and bushes and hedges<br />
that grow by the garden<br />
and over the ledges.</p>
<p>Daddy grows grass.</p>
<p>Mommy grows roses<br />
of all shapes and sizes.<br />
She takes them to fairs<br />
and often wins prizes.</p>
<p>Daddy grows grass.</p>
<p>Well, actually…<br />
sometimes Daddy grows flowers, too -<br />
pretty yellow dandelions, that cover the lawn.<br />
But Daddy pulls them up</p>
<p>To grow more grass.</p>
<p><em>- © 2010, Matt Forrest Esenwine</em></p>
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<p>Be sure to visit Tabatha at <a href="http://tabathayeatts.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">The Opposite of Indifference </a>for the complete Poetry Friday round-up!</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Jun 2013 04:01:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[As part of my month-long celebration of National Poetry Month this past April, I had the pleasure of interviewing Gerald So, webmaster and editor of the Poems on Crime blog, The 5-2: Crime Poetry Weekly. It was enlightening, to say the least, learning about this unusual genre of poetry and reading some of the poems that [&#8230;]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mattforrest.wordpress.com&#038;blog=39004947&#038;post=2609&#038;subd=mattforrest&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As part of my month-long celebration of National Poetry Month this past April, I had the pleasure of <a href="http://mattforrest.wordpress.com/2013/04/09/crime-and-poetry-an-unusual-relationship/" target="_blank">interviewing Gerald So</a>, webmaster and editor of the Poems on Crime blog, <a href="http://poemsoncrime.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">The 5-2: Crime Poetry Weekly</a>.</p>
<p><a href="http://poemsoncrime.blogspot.com/p/books.html#V1" target="_blank"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-2612" alt="5-2-V1-Cover-165" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/5-2-v1-cover-165.jpg?w=538"   /></a>It was enlightening, to say the least, learning about this unusual genre of poetry and reading some of the poems that had been published both there as well as in So&#8217;s previous eBook series, <em>The Lineup: Poems on Crime</em>.  The different styles of poetry, the unique voices of those writing it, and the varied crimes that served as material for these poems serve to bring poetry to a new audience.</p>
<p>I hoped my interview, likewise, would help bring the poetry audience to the genre.</p>
<p>Having said this, it&#8217;s my pleasure to share with you one of my poems that was accepted for publication in<em> The 5-2</em>.  Entitled &#8220;Flight,&#8221; the poem is a short vignette of &#8216;flight&#8217; that has been suddenly&#8230;stopped. You&#8217;ll see what I mean when you read it <a href="http://poemsoncrime.blogspot.com/2013/06/matt-forrest-esenwine.html" target="_blank">HERE</a>.</p>
<p>A little different from my children&#8217;s poetry, yes?  Hope you liked it, though.  I encourage you to check out my <a href="http://mattforrest.wordpress.com/2013/04/09/crime-and-poetry-an-unusual-relationship/" target="_blank">interview with So</a> if you hadn&#8217;t had a chance to read it yet - and I&#8217;ll be back this  Friday, June 7, with my weekly Poetry Friday offering!</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 31 May 2013 04:01:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Some poems almost write themselves; the idea pops into your head, you start writing, and before you know it a perfect little masterpiece is smiling back at you. And then there are poems like this one. I wrote the first draft of this back in 2011. No sooner had I lifted pen from paper, when [&#8230;]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mattforrest.wordpress.com&#038;blog=39004947&#038;post=2598&#038;subd=mattforrest&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p style="text-align:left;">Some poems almost write themselves; the idea pops into your head, you start writing, and before you know it a perfect little masterpiece is smiling back at you.</p>
<p>And then there are poems like this one.</p>
<p>I wrote the first draft of this back in 2011. No sooner had I lifted pen from paper, when I decided to make some changes. And then a couple months later I made some more changes.</p>
<p>Then I thought about those changes&#8230;and made some more.</p>
<p>Do you see where this is going?</p>
<p>Well, I just finally completed what I believe to be the final draft &#8211; but of course, at this rate, that&#8217;s a rather tenuous statement. Many thanks to the Poet&#8217;s Garage, my online critique group, who helped me fix a few sticky lines. As with most advice, I took some of it to heart - and ignored the rest of it (no offense, folks!).  Hopefully what I ignored won&#8217;t come back to bite me!  For all of today&#8217;s Poetry Friday fun, be sure to visit Betsy at <a href="http://teachingyoungwriters.blogspot.ca/2013/05/poetry-friday-and-chalk-bration.html" target="_blank">Teaching Young Writers</a>!</p>
<p><b>&#8220;Worm Tale&#8221;</b></p>
<p>Mommy worm<br />
was very firm;<br />
she sternly warned her baby worm<br />
to be aware of where one squirms<br />
and stay away from dirty germs.<br />
She said, “Where earth is warm and firm<br />
is no place for a worm to squirm,<br />
so do not go near sunny ferns<br />
or you’ll get dirty, germy burns!”<br />
But baby worm was unconcerned,<br />
and one day from the dirt returned<br />
with fern stains on her wormy shirt<br />
and germs upon her dirty skirt.<br />
Her eyes were sore, her head – it hurt.<br />
She couldn’t even eat dessert!<br />
So mommy worm told baby worm<br />
it only takes one dirty germ<br />
to make a tiny tummy turn.<br />
But baby worm showed no concern<br />
for mommy’s warning where to squirm;<br />
next day, a naughty little worm<br />
was back to squirming under fern.</p>
<p>I guess some worms will never learn.</p>
<p><em>- <em>- © 2013, Matt Forrest Esenwine</em></em></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[As a children&#8217;s writer still searching for that first publishing deal, I know what it&#8217;s like to write and write and write and wonder if anyone knows or cares. This blog is helpful in making known my name, abilities, and style&#8230;but still, if I only posted once every couple of weeks, it would not be [&#8230;]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mattforrest.wordpress.com&#038;blog=39004947&#038;post=2574&#038;subd=mattforrest&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As a children&#8217;s writer still searching for that first publishing deal, I know what it&#8217;s like to write and write and write and wonder if anyone knows or cares.</p>
<p>This blog is helpful in making known my name, abilities, and style&#8230;but still, if I only posted once every couple of weeks, it would not be as effective. I wouldn&#8217;t have the number of people, like you, visiting, reading, commenting, and sharing.  Conversely, if I was to post more than twice a week, my blog could, perhaps, gain more followers, acquire more voiceover or copy writing clients, and pique the interest of an agent or publisher.</p>
<p>I mention this to make a point. No matter what type of promoting you&#8217;re doing &#8211; marketing a book, promoting your blog, advertising a business &#8211; what you say is only important if other people read it. And the only way others will read it is if they know it&#8217;s been written.</p>
<p>I know, I know&#8230;this is all pretty self-explanatory. But let me explain where I&#8217;m going with this&#8230;</p>
<p><strong><img class="alignright  wp-image-498" alt="Image courtesy of ponsulak / FreeDigitalPhotos.net" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2012/09/id-10065758-money.jpg?w=240&#038;h=159" width="240" height="159" />The necessity of advertising</strong></p>
<p>Many of the folks with whom I correspond hate the idea of advertising. They know it exists and they know I make a pseudo-living out of it, but they feel like advertising is a 4-letter word. That it&#8217;s somehow subversive, mind-altering brainwashing that I&#8217;m involved in.  They hate Facebook ads and Google ads and TV &amp; radio commercials and billboards &#8211; and act like they&#8217;re above it all because they don&#8217;t fall for any of corporate America&#8217;s ploys.</p>
<p>They&#8217;re too cool to be influenced or swayed by a message provoking them to turn over their money.</p>
<p>They don&#8217;t realize how ubiquitous advertising is, nor how effective it is, even on people like themselves.</p>
<p>No matter who you are, advertising affects you. We wake up in advertised beds, brush our teeth with advertised toothpaste, drink advertised coffee or tea before we leave our house or apartment (which was advertised before you bought it), and head off to work wearing advertised clothes while driving advertised cars, advertised bicycles, or walking on advertised shoes.</p>
<p>Nearly everything we own in our lives has been advertised, and we choose one product over another because of the benefit(s) we perceive from that product.</p>
<p>(Keep in mind, also, that advertising doesn&#8217;t necessarily involve money. Jesus advertised everlasting life, and never asked for a penny.)</p>
<p><strong>Psychological egoism and why we&#8217;re all looking out for #1</strong></p>
<div id="attachment_2582" class="wp-caption alignleft" style="width: 135px"><img class=" wp-image-2582  " alt="hobbes" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/hobbes.jpg?w=125&#038;h=168" width="125" height="168" /><p class="wp-caption-text">English philosopher Thomas Hobbes (1588-1679), a proponent of psychological egoism</p></div>
<p>Psychological egoism is a richly debated theory that states that every voluntary action one undertakes is done for that individual&#8217;s self-gratification. In other words, everything that each of us does is done for our own self-interests (you can learn more about the specifics of this doctrine <a href="http://philosophy.lander.edu/ethics/egoism.html" target="_blank">here</a>).</p>
<p>Why do we buy a red car instead of a blue? Because we like red more. Why do we choose the steak over the haddock filet? Because we like steak more.</p>
<p>Why buy Colgate instead of Crest? Because of the perceived benefit of using Colgate.</p>
<p>Of course, some folks will argue that selfless acts of kindness or sacrifice negate this theory; however, one can argue that engaging in a selfless act of kindness is also done for one&#8217;s own gratification. For example, if I have $100, I could pay some bills, donate it to a local food shelter, or go to a strip club for a few hours.  The choice I make ultimately depends on which option brings me the most satisfaction or happiness.</p>
<p>And chances are, I&#8217;d be paying bills for products or services that were advertised, donating money to a food shelter that had been advertised (perhaps via a news article or Public Service Announcement), or going to a strip club that was advertised.</p>
<p>Now, about that message&#8230;</p>
<p><strong>It&#8217;s not what you said, it&#8217;s how (often) you said it</strong></p>
<p>Getting back to my initial thoughts, what if you had a great message and no one knew?  You could create the world&#8217;s greatest widget and develop a unique, effective commercial ad campaign&#8230;but if no one hears or sees it, you might as well not have bothered, right? That is where <em>frequency</em> comes into play.</p>
<p>In radio and TV, the more often you air your commercial, the better &#8211; because the more people will see or hear it. Run one commercial a day on radio and a few solid potential customers might take notice, but run it several times throughout the day &#8211; at various times in the morning, midday, afternoon, and evening &#8211; and then you&#8217;re <em>really</em> connecting with lots of potential customers.</p>
<p>But that many commercials costs a lot of money, right?  Well, let me give you a real-life example of how running on a low budget doesn&#8217;t mean you can&#8217;t attract big-budget numbers of people.</p>
<p>Many years ago, when I was working in Vermont as a radio producer, our sales manager met a restaurant owner who wanted to advertise but didn&#8217;t think he could afford <img class="alignright" title="Image courtesy of phanlop88 / FreeDigitalPhotos.net" alt="ID-10068993 (sound mixer)" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/id-10068993-sound-mixer.jpg?w=270&#038;h=178" width="270" height="178" />4 or 5 spots (commercials) every day. So we suggested doing something unusual: we would run 10 spots one day a week &#8211; Friday. While this wouldn&#8217;t give him the weekly exposure of a more expensive schedule, he would pretty much own the airwaves that one day, with his commercial airing almost every hour <em>all day long</em>.</p>
<p>Within just a few weeks, he told our manager that customers were telling him they not only heard about his restaurant on our radio station, but they were telling him they were hearing him all the time!</p>
<p>&#8220;I&#8217;m always hearing your commercials!&#8221; one person told him.</p>
<p>&#8220;I hear you every day!&#8221; said another.</p>
<p>In the battle of perception versus reality&#8230;perception won, again.</p>
<p><strong>Get your message out there!</strong></p>
<p>Are you selling cars, furniture, or fertilizer? Are you selling yourself, your abilities, your experience? Whatever it is &#8211; whether you realize you&#8217;re selling something or not &#8211; spend some time determining the best way to promote your message. If you&#8217;re a business, a writer, a job seeker&#8230;you have to let people know you&#8217;re there!</p>
<p>And if you&#8217;re the type who doesn&#8217;t like promotion, advertising, or marketing&#8230;enjoy your obscurity!  You might think your message is awesome, but it&#8217;s only awesome if someone hears it.</p>
<p>Your product might change the world, but only if the world knows about it.</p>
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<p><em>I&#8217;m obviously happy to talk to anyone who has questions about advertising and copy writing and that sort of thing&#8230;if you have questions about creating a commercial or getting voice work (like on-hold messaging or video narration) done for your business, feel free to contact me at matt(at)mattforrest(dot)com!</em></p>
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		<title>Poetry Friday: &#8220;My Book Report&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 24 May 2013 04:01:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I thought I&#8217;d go waaaaay back in time for today&#8217;s post &#8211; back to the fall of 2000! This is one of the first few children&#8217;s poems I ever wrote (I started writing for children in &#8217;99, I believe), but when I read it today, it doesn&#8217;t feel that old, if that makes sense.  Sometimes [&#8230;]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mattforrest.wordpress.com&#038;blog=39004947&#038;post=2564&#038;subd=mattforrest&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I thought I&#8217;d go waaaaay back in time for today&#8217;s post &#8211; back to the fall of 2000!</p>
<p><img class="alignright" alt="poetryfridaybutton-fulll" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/01/poetryfridaybutton-fulll.jpg?w=200&#038;h=137" width="200" height="137" />This is one of the first few children&#8217;s poems I ever wrote (I started writing for children in &#8217;99, I believe), but when I read it today, it doesn&#8217;t feel that old, if that makes sense.  Sometimes when you&#8217;re developing a skill - whether it&#8217;s writing, singing, painting, whatever &#8211; you can tell the older, unskilled work from the newer, more polished stuff.  Personally, I can tell it&#8217;s not new&#8230;but I&#8217;m not embarrassed by it, either (and yes, there are plenty of poems that will <em>never </em>see the light of day for that very reason).</p>
<p>Since the school year is winding down and graduations are ubiquitous these days, I thought a little school-themed poetry might be nice. Hope you like it! And for all of today&#8217;s Poetry Friday offerings &#8211; including some delicious Mango Bread and a poem by Lesléa Newman &#8211; visit <a href="http://jamarattigan.com/2013/05/23/the-poetry-friday-roundup-is-here/" target="_blank">Jama Rattigan&#8217;s Alphabet Soup</a>!</p>
<p align="left"><strong>&#8220;Book Report&#8221;</strong></p>
<p>My teacher said I have to write<br />
a book report for class -<br />
at least one hundred-fifty words,<br />
or else I will not pass.</p>
<p>So here I sit with pen in hand<br />
and nothing in my mind;<br />
if I don’t get this handed in<br />
I’ll be in quite a bind.</p>
<p>There must be some creative way<br />
I can begin the text:<br />
I know my name, I know the date,<br />
I don’t know what comes next.</p>
<p>Come on, now, brain, you’ve got to think<br />
and help me get this done!<br />
It’s due tomorrow morning, and<br />
I’ve not even begun!</p>
<p>But wait – that’s it – I’ve got it now!<br />
I know just what I need!<br />
The first thing that I’ll have to do…<br />
is find a book to read.</p>
<p><em>- © 2000, Matt Forrest Esenwine</em></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last week, I wrote about details in writing - whether it&#8217;s for commercials or creative writing. I spotlighted a couple of commercials that I thought could have been improved and one that I felt was well-done. And because there seems to be no end to the number of TV commercials that annoy me&#8230;I present &#8217;Part 2.&#8217; [&#8230;]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mattforrest.wordpress.com&#038;blog=39004947&#038;post=2544&#038;subd=mattforrest&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Last week,<a href="http://mattforrest.wordpress.com/2013/05/14/commercials-its-the-little-things-that-mean-so-much/" target="_blank"> I wrote about details in writing </a>- whether it&#8217;s for commercials or creative writing. I spotlighted a couple of commercials that I thought could have been improved and one that I felt was well-done.</p>
<p>And because there seems to be no end to the number of TV commercials that annoy me&#8230;I present &#8217;Part 2.&#8217;</p>
<p>I hadn&#8217;t planned on doing another post on commercials today &#8211; or even on advertising in general &#8211; but soon after I had finished writing last week&#8217;s diatribe, I felt another one welling up inside me.  So please forgive me for indulging in a second little rant; heck, it&#8217;s my blog, after all!</p>
<p>Of course I hope, as always, that some of points I make about copy writing and production can be directly correlated to other types of writing such as poems, stories, and books.  Continuity errors, misleading untruths, and confusing messages are hardly confined to the advertising realm.</p>
<p><strong>Which unravels faster: the clothes or the message?</strong></p>
<p>Some things get better with time: wine, cheese, friendships. A sales message should not be one of them. In the case of the following commercial, it took repeated viewings &#8211; and an explanation from my wife &#8211; for me to understand just what&#8217;s going on. This is a perfect example of a message getting lost in creativity:</p>
<p><span class='embed-youtube' style='text-align:center; display: block;'><iframe class='youtube-player' type='text/html' width='538' height='333' src='http://www.youtube.com/embed/UW5weXSW__8?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;fs=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;wmode=transparent' frameborder='0'></iframe></span></p>
<p>Here&#8217;s your trivia question: what&#8217;s with the yarn?? Why is this car unraveling all these clothes? If you don&#8217;t know, go ahead and watch it again and see if you can figure it out.</p>
<p>Now then, if you have the answer, congratulations &#8211; you did better than me.  I had seen this TV spot innumerable times and never knew what was going on.  It took my wife at least seven viewings before she suddenly announced, &#8220;I finally figured it out!&#8221;  She explained that the clothes are unraveling because winter is over and the car is bringing spring to the world. In actuality, after I paid close attention to it, the commercial is advertising a sale.</p>
<p>No prices, no features, no <a href="http://mattforrest.wordpress.com/2013/02/19/in-commercials-or-poems-be-specific/" target="_blank">Unique Selling Proposition</a>&#8230;just an announcement for a sale.  This commercial basically takes half a minute to say, &#8220;We&#8217;re having a sale.&#8221;  I could be way off base here, but wouldn&#8217;t it be nice to know <em>why</em> I should care about the sale &#8211; or <em>why</em> I should want an Infiniti? Is it too much to ask for a few little details? Perhaps, if one can afford to own an Infiniti, one already knows all about the features of the Infiniti and therefore one needn&#8217;t concern oneself with the price of an Infiniti.</p>
<p>But that negates the need for a sale now, doesn&#8217;t it?</p>
<p><strong>Fun with science</strong></p>
<p>Every time this commercial comes on the TV, my wife sighs. Not because of the commercial itself, but because of my reaction to a mere 1.5 seconds of it:</p>
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<p>This isn&#8217;t a bad commercial&#8230;but it is misleading. Check out what&#8217;s happening :15 in. See those little yellowish critters, squiggling around in the sewage? Those are supposed to be enzymes, breaking down the waste.  Well, guess what?</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s a news flash:  enzymes are MOLECULES, folks!</p>
<p>They are naturally-occurring<em> chemicals -</em> not living creatures that scoot around inside your septic tank, chewing up your poop like Pac-Man chasing after a cherry.</p>
<p>This is what drives me nuts.  I know this dramatization has nothing to do with the true efficacy of Rid-X, but when I see this blatant error (or misleading animation &#8211; I&#8217;m not sure which), it makes me wonder what else I&#8217;m being misled about.  Be true to your subject! Whether you&#8217;re writing a commercial, poem, or novel&#8230;remember that suspension of disbelief only goes so far.</p>
<p><strong>A good commercial, made better</strong></p>
<p>This spot, by contrast, is a fine example of a clear, compelling message:</p>
<p style="text-align:center;"><a href="http://ispot.tv/a/7VAG" target="_blank">Zero Water TV spot: &#8216;The Waiter&#8221;</a></p>
<p>Zero Water filters are so good, they can filter out wine from tap water! I have no idea if that&#8217;s true, but it only took me one viewing of this commercial to understand that message. Like most good commercials, it&#8217;s a story: wine is poured into tap water, tap water is filtered, the Zero Water filter filters out the wine while the competition fails. And the genuinely surprised reaction by the man in the audience is a nice touch &#8211; a small detail, like we talked about <a href="http://mattforrest.wordpress.com/2013/05/14/commercials-its-the-little-things-that-mean-so-much/" target="_blank">last week </a>- that makes a big impact.</p>
<p>But the commercial wasn&#8217;t always this good. Here&#8217;s how it first appeared:</p>
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<p>The two biggest changes the ad agency made were the most important. First, they took the focus off the waiter; his goofy expression takes away from the straightforward, realistic style of a more-or-less-serious spot. And the reaction of the woman was, well, uhh &#8211; almost a non-reaction. She&#8217;s just sort of&#8230;there.  The gentleman in the newer spot appears to be honestly surprised and impressed, and that air of realism is important to the overall tone of the spot.</p>
<p><strong>Be honest, be clear!</strong></p>
<p>Don&#8217;t muddle your message with some cutesy &#8216;hook&#8217; &#8211; like pulling strands of yarn off people to sell a luxury car in the spring. &#8220;Spring&#8221; is not the message, and &#8220;yarn&#8221; certainly isn&#8217;t, either.  And don&#8217;t assume your potential customers are too stupid to know what you&#8217;re telling them, such as enzymes that go chomp-chomp-chomping around your septic system.  Be honest, be clear, and make sure viewers (or listeners, if you&#8217;re in radio) know what you&#8217;re selling and why they should care.</p>
<p>Those two things &#8211; the product/service and the benefit of that product/service &#8211; should be first and foremost in your mind.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ll take &#8220;highly effective&#8221; over &#8220;highly creative&#8221; any day.</p>
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		<title>Poetry Friday: &#8220;Summer Frost&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 17 May 2013 04:01:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Funny how poems sometimes materialize from the oddest of circumstances. Four years ago, when my wife and I were discussing possible names for our baby &#8211; who was due right at the very end of 2009 &#8211; several winter-related names popped up. Since we didn&#8217;t know if we were having a boy or a girl, [&#8230;]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mattforrest.wordpress.com&#038;blog=39004947&#038;post=2528&#038;subd=mattforrest&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Funny how poems sometimes materialize from the oddest of circumstances.</p>
<p><a href="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/01/poetryfridaybutton-fulll.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-1637" alt="poetryfridaybutton-fulll" src="http://mattforrest.files.wordpress.com/2013/01/poetryfridaybutton-fulll.jpg?w=538"   /></a>Four years ago, when my wife and I were discussing possible names for our baby &#8211; who was due right at the very end of 2009 &#8211; several winter-related names popped up. Since we didn&#8217;t know if we were having a boy or a girl, Noel/Noelle, Crystal, Winter, Merry, and Janvier (French for &#8216;January&#8217;) all came up as potentials, although we didn&#8217;t like any of those enough to put on our &#8220;list.&#8221;</p>
<p>One name, however, stuck: Frost. We thought Phoebe Frost would make a beautiful name for a girl born in the winter; plus, my wife noted that it would also be apropos because of my fondness for the poetry of Robert Frost.  (Being the comic book geek that I am, a reference to <a href="http://marvel.com/universe/Frost,_Emma" target="_blank">Emma Frost </a>was a cool little bonus)</p>
<p>Fast forward to last month.  We were again discussing baby names, this time for our little bundle of joy who is due to arrive this August.  Since we had a little boy 3 1/2 years ago, we had to start from scratch with the boy names.  The girl names, however, were all fair game &#8211; but I questioned if the name Frost would work, considering the time of year he or she will be born.  One name my wife suggested was Summer Rose; when I countered with Summer Frost, a light went on. Those two words stuck in my head and refused to leave until I had written this.</p>
<p>&#8220;Summer Frost&#8221; may be off the baby name list, but it&#8217;s finally on paper&#8230;a poem four years in the making. For all of today&#8217;s Poetry Friday posts, please visit Ed DeCaria at <a href="http://www.thinkkidthink.com/" target="_blank">Think Kid, Think!</a></p>
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<p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#ffffff;">.</span></p>
<p><b>&#8220;Summer Frost&#8221;</b></p>
<p>It was unexpected.</p>
<p>Deep, deep in July, all humid, torrid,</p>
<p>when blushing Brandywines, full and ripe</p>
<p>hang heavy, tearing from their vines</p>
<p>and dragonflies dart between empty rows</p>
<p>where sunflowers were to grow (thank the crows),</p>
<p>a killing came. Subtle death</p>
<p>settled lightly, gently wresting life and breath</p>
<p>swiftly, softly, barely touching –</p>
<p>but with such a thing</p>
<p>as a summer frost</p>
<p>it should not</p>
<p>be unexpected.</p>
<p><span style="color:#ffffff;">.</span></p>
<p><em>- © 2013, Matt Forrest Esenwine</em></p>
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