This post was originally published August 3, 2012. It was my first poetry post on this blog, and only my second post ever, following my introduction. But I repost it every year at this time, as my wedding anniversary is August 10 and the poem was part of my wedding vows. Would I write this poem quite this way today? Probably not; the sentiment certainly hasn’t changed, but the word choice could be improved, as the poem feels too formal and overwrought. But I can’t really revise a poem titled “Constancy” now, can I?

My friend Christie Wyman is hosting Poetry Friday today at her blog, Wondering and Wandering, so be sure to head over there for all of today’s poetry links and fun!


poetryfridaybutton-fulllThis is only my second posting on this blog, and although I knew I wanted to do something for Poetry Friday, it took quite a bit of deliberation to decide which poem of mine I should spotlight.  Children’s poetry or adult poetry?  Published or unpublished?  Happy or sad?  Funny or serious???

After careful consideration, I decided I would post an unpublished poem I wrote a few years ago for the one person in the world who has done the most for me in my quest to become a published children’s author:   my wife, Jenny. Through her unwavering support (emotional, physical, AND financial), I’m able to pursue this dream along with all the other people who have been so helpful to me, like my kids, friends, and fellow writers.

This is a traditional Elizabethan sonnet (three quatrains with an a/b/a/b, c/d/c/d, e/f/e/f rhyme scheme followed by a rhyming g/g couplet) which I wrote as part of my wedding vows.  No, it doesn’t read as a contemporary poem; it was deliberately written in a sort of old-fashioned, classic sort of style. I wanted to express the thought that even though poets throughout history have written words of undying love and immutable steadfastness, my love for her surpassed all their metaphors, all their similes, all that they could ever have imagined.

Yes, I’m a romantic; I make no apologies.

I conclude my poem with a suggestion for them as to what they should compare their love to…but it’s not a rose or a star.

Looking back on it (indeed, even shortly after I’d written it), there are several things I would have changed, edited, or revised – but I was under a deadline, of course, and this was what I came up with.  Unlike my other poems, “Constancy” will never be put through revisions, however. These were the words I spoke to my wife on August 10, 2008 (in a voice loud enough that the entire state of Massachusetts could hear) and so they shall remain.  These words were part of my vows and are as unalterable as my love and gratitude for her.

I wouldn’t be able to do what I do were it not for Jenny.

Thanks again for saying “Yes,” Honey.

For Jennifer

How many have, before me, tried in vain
To capture beauty, constancy, and love
Through fluent phrase, in happiness and pain,
And simile of summer, star, or dove?
Their words so eloquent, imagery lush –
In perfect imperfection testify,
For seasons change, the steadfast heavens rush
To swirl about themselves, and doves will die.
How best to show the one whom I adore
The fullness of my amorosity?
I fail to find a finer metaphor
Than that true love which you have shown to me.
The poets fail! Their thoughts do not dismiss;
‘Tis better they compare their love to this.

© 2008, Matt Forrest Esenwine, all rights reserved


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118 thoughts on ““Constancy”

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  3. Carrie Finison

    Hey…I was in Massachusetts that day. Finally, an explanation for all that noise. 🙂 This is really lovely, Matt. What a beautiful tribute to her on your wedding day.


  4. Heidi

    I missed this last year–what a lovely tradition, and a heartfelt expression of your vow, too! Marriage really matters, don’t you find? ❤


  5. Joyce Ray

    Happy Anniversary to you and Jenny, Matt! You are indeed a romantic. Your wife will treasure the poem of your wedding vows forever. I really like the juxtaposition of perfect and imperfection. It really highlights your feeling that the poets’ chosen metaphors fall short of the mark!


  6. margaretsmn

    Happy Anniversary! With a poem like that written with such conviction, your love will stand the test of time. My anniversary was the 7th. We celebrated 32 years by dancing! Here’s to you and more years than you can imagine.


  7. lindabaie

    I remember this, and it’s special that you share it every year, and that those words were said (loud & clear) at your wedding. Happy Anniversary!


  8. haitiruth

    Happy anniversary! Has it really been a year since the last time you shared this? Your anniversary is right before mine, and I remember reading this last year. I like it very much. Ruth, thereisnosuchthingasagodforsakentown.blogspot.com


  9. For all us girls who didn’t marry romantics (our opposites of engineering minds, indeed) thank you. To see a pledge so heartfelt and beautifully written is a joy. Many happy returns on your special day.


  10. Your sonnet is beautiful and such a heartfelt tribute to your relationship with your wife (as is your whole post). I love that this poem is off limits to revisions. Yay to romanticism and sonnets! Happy Anniversary!


  11. While I could not find this post last week, I am here this PF day to salute your love. Each year, I enjoy reading your sonnet, Matt. I hope your anniversary was filled with special blessings.


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